James 3:1-12
Pentecost +15 (B) – September 17, 2006
Introduction
When I study for a sermon, I look in lots of places. I start out in the scripture, of course – looking at the passage itself. I look for passages that are related to the one I am studying, I look at the passage in light of the whole book, and I look at the original languages if I need to. Then I start to look at what other folks have said about this passage. And as I have looked through the commentaries on the lectionary for this past few weeks, preachers and commentators have steered clear of James like the plague. They will look at Mark, they’ll look at the OT passages that are coming along, but they won’t look at James. And very, very few preachers wanted to have anything to do with today’s passage about speech and the tongue.
We’ve looked at James the last two weeks, and we’ve seen his main points:
- We have to look closely at the Scriptures,
- and we have to be disciplined to apply everything we see there.
- Otherwise, we’re like people who glance at ourselves in the mirror, see what a mess we are, and walk on as if we haven’t seen anything!
James thinks that simple belief in God is nothing. We have to let that belief influence how we live our lives. He gives us some good examples of how we sometimes neglect letting the Gospel into our lives. First, he speaks of prejudice and how we view other people. In a passage we haven’t studied, James speaks of caring for the poor – not just talking about it, but actually doing it.
And now, James comes to what he obviously considers the “last frontier.” And it’s a place we’d rather not go. James turns his attention next to our speech.
Taking About the Tongue
I’m sure we can all identify with this. After all, who here hasn’t got a funny story of some time that our words got us in trouble? Less than a year ago, I was preaching on All Saints’ Sunday, and talking about how people in the Philippines stay overnight in the cemeteries with their loved ones, and then I said something I’m still embarrassed by to this day – “Most of us white, Western folks wouldn’t get caught dead in a graveyard.” I don’t know why, but I was so afraid that slip up would offend some people!
We mess up in what we say all the time… no one is perfect. And we’re all used to the illustration that probably every pastor has used in a children’s sermon – the tube of toothpaste. No matter how hard you try, you just can’t get that toothpaste back in there! So it is with our words – we can’t take them back, no matter how much we’d give to be able to sometimes.
And some people make a living off words. Turn on Jay Leno or David Letterman, or open a good page-turning novel, and you’ll see people who make a pretty good living with words. Words can be a funny business, or a profitable business, and we’re all keenly aware of just how funny and potent words can be.
But I want you to look back into this passage for just a moment and see if you can find the funny part of what James is saying. You won’t find anything. Now granted, James is a little prone to over-seriousness at times, but this passage is at the heart of James’ letter. He mentions our speech at two different places in the letter, and spends a good portion of time here on the very topic. James isn’t making a humorous point here. Not a single illustration is funny. To James, this is a deadly serious matter.
And this isn’t just James going on about gossip – gossip is only one way we misuse our language. James seems to be talking as if there’s more at stake than just a few hurt feelings! Words are at the heart of our existence and our relationship with one another. All we have to do is take a brief look through the Scripture to see that words are worth more than we give them credit for.
What God does with Words
I sometimes tend to think that my words are kind of expendable. And for preachers who make a living out of talking, we sometimes get to the point where “talk is cheap.” People watch us more closely to see if we’re really living out what we say, so sometimes I’m aware that I can say almost anything and it won’t make a difference unless I live it out.
But in God’s economy, talk is never cheap. When God speaks, things happen. Look at a few of the things we see in the Scripture that God does with words.
- He creates the world. Notice that Genesis doesn’t say, “God waved his hands and there was light.” It says, “God spoke into the darkness, and there was light.” We’ve talked before about how “Spirit” and “breath” are the same words in Hebrew. There’s a reason – God’s Word, God’s breath, God’s Spirit, are powerful things.
- At the Tower of Babel, human beings were getting too ambitious for their own good and trying to put themselves in God’s place. So God separated all of humanity – but not by creating political barriers and separating people into cultures. No, God used language – he gave them different languages, and that was the most powerful way they could have been separated.
- God makes a covenant with the people of Israel. He could have laid down a complex code of laws, a constitution for the people of Israel. But instead, Exodus tells us that God spoke “Ten Words” for his people. Those words had power and authority.
- He governs his people. God speaks to his judges and his prophets in order to make his will known, his pleasure or his displeasure with his people.
- He changes names in order to reflect a change in status and to give a new mission.
- God renames Abram and Sarah to show them that, at about 100 years old and without children, they are to become parents of a great nation.
- God renames Jacob – a “trickster” or a “con-man,” into “Israel,” – one who strives with God, and who will be the father of a great nation.
- Jesus renames Simon into Peter – the rock on which his church will be founded.
In fact, in the Hebrew Scriptures, it seems that “God’s Word” is not only the power of God in action, but also God’s presence among his people. That’s why when John describes Jesus, he doesn’t start by calling him the “Son of Man,” the “Son of God,” or any of the other appropriate titles. John looks back to that very first chapter in Genesis, where God’s Word created the world, and he calls Jesus “the Word.” But more than just God’s power, this is the Word that is God’s presence among us – “The Word became flesh and lived among us.”
And in seminary, that’s what we learned about how God lives among us today. Somehow, when you open that Bible in your lap and read those Words, or when I get up in this pulpit and pronounce these Words – somehow, in some mysterious way, God is present with us in that Word. God is here with us this morning in a very tangible way.
What We Do with Words
If we see how carefully and seriously God uses words, we might begin to see how important words are to us as well. Wars have begun because of someone’s careless words, and wars have ended with the words of a treaty or peace accord. Jobs are won because someone can speak the right words in an interview, and jobs are lost because someone said the wrong words to the boss or wrote the wrong email. Relationships are broken because harsh words were spoken, and if they are ever mended it usually begins with the simple words, “I’m sorry.”
And I, as a minister and pastor, am very aware of the words I say and how they can affect people. I have a couple of good stories that illustrate this. When I was in high school, I had a very good friend who I’d grown up with at church. I spent a good deal of time at his house, playing video games, basketball, and all kinds of other things.
But one afternoon I was at his house, and this friend of mine did something – something that was embarrassing and quite wrong. What he did is not important to this story, so I won’t tell you. Just know that it was a very serious thing. I knew he had no mean motives in what he did, but it was shocking to me, and I left wondering what I should do about it.
What I did was the wrong thing. I started telling people at our school. I just happened to let it slip one day, and there it was. I didn’t have to elaborate or exaggerate the story – I was just telling the truth! But just like toothpaste out of the tube, I could not put those words back in my mouth. When I realized what I’d done, I apologized and tried to make amends. I tried to tell people that what he’d done was not really that bad, that he just didn’t know what he was doing. But it was too late. The damage was done.
This yong man and I were not friends after that. I lost a good friendship. More than that, he and his family stopped coming to our church a few weeks later. Then the next year, he moved to a different school. It may have had little to do with what I’d done. Or it may have had lots to do. But as many times as I felt remorse, as many times as I apologized, I still carry a little twinge of guilt – even 15 years later – that I had done that.
You’d think I’d have learned my lesson, but it’s so easy to let things like that slip. Another time, a youth in our church in Birmingham went on the second trip we took to Mexico. He had just gotten more active and involved in church, and we were excited that he was going along. But he is a competitive person, and while we played cards in the evening, he was the kind of rude competitor that nobody wanted to play. He was good, and he told you. I can’t stand that kind of thing.
So, I started talking. I complained to others there, and once or twice, I’m pretty sure I was in a place he could hear me talking. He got very distant for the second half of the trip, stopped playing cards. Then, just about a month after we got back, he simply stopped coming to church. Last I heard, he’d pretty much lost his faith in God and was not going anywhere to church.
Again, it may not have been my words that did that. But it may HAVE been my words. And I’ll carry that on my conscience for a long time.
Now even though our message this morning is not just about gossip, it’s important to make a note about gossip. How many times have I told myself that “I’m not gossiping, I’m telling the truth.” I think we all need to be reminded, however, that truthfulness is not what determines gossip. The things I said in these situations were absolutely true, but sometimes there are things that are true that don’t need to be said. Abraham Lincoln was famously quoted as saying, “I would rather remain silent and be thought a fool than speak out and remove all doubt.”
What James Says About Words
Why are words such an important part of our lives? Maybe we can take some clues from what James says about our speech. Obviously he considers it a very important part of being godly. And he uses several good illustrations to get his point across.
(2) For we all stumble in many ways. If someone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect individual, able to control the entire body as well.
“Stumble” is basically “fail.” We all fail in many ways. The first image James uses, subtly, is that of an athlete – who, as Paul puts it, is “beating his body into submission.” We can train our muscles, can hone our coordination and fine motor skills to accomplish a task (ever played a sport?). We can even bend our bodies into a certain shape, stretch our bones, do all kinds of things to control our bodies (ever seen Cirque de Soleil?). But while all this self-control is admirable, there is one final frontier: The tongue.
Later, in verses 7-8, James carries this illustration on to talk of how we can domesticate nearly every animal on the earth. But no one can fully tame the tongue.
James’ speech in this verse seems almost sarcastic or ironic: Since no one can NOT stumble in their speech, there is no perfect individual.
Isn’t it true that we can be so disciplined in so many ways, but that we can let slip a damaging word as easily as a breath?
(3) And if we put bits into the mouths of horses to get them to obey us, then we guide their entire bodies.
The second image used by James speaks to how we use words with others. A small metal bar in the mouth of a horse can do wonders – it can guide the entire horse one way or another, even bring the horse to a calm that would be otherwise impossible. So can words guide (or even control) other people.
Look at the words we speak together here on Sunday mornings – the words we use have power, whether we pay attention to it or not. We sing hymns that carry heavy theological meaning, we read Scripture that is capable of transforming our lives. We say the Lord’s Prayer – a tradition so old here that it probably evokes some kind of memory every time we say it. The words we use here can be powerful.
Look, too, at the other ways we use words – for other kinds of ends. Words can manipulate a crowd, can persuade someone to do something they would not ordinarily do. Look at the rhetorical power used by our nation’s Founding Fathers, who stirred sleepy colonies into the fire of revolution. Look at the powerful rhetoric used by people like Hitler, Stalin, David Koresh, and look what they accomplished.
James is no fool, and he doesn’t want us to be either. He knows that properly used words can, like a bridle, calm a raging horse, or stir a calm horse into a frenzy.
(4) Look at ships too: Though they are so large and driven by harsh winds, they are steered by a tiny rudder wherever the pilot’s inclination directs.
James’ third illustration is of a ship’s rudder. This speaks more to the effect that words can have on our own lives. Most of us are used to smaller boats on very short trips. But James is not speaking of fishing boats, that often have no rudders. He’s talking about large international ships. A small variation in rudder direction on a voyage like that can make all the difference. If you set sail from New York to the east, a rudder change of just a few degrees of that many miles can mean the difference between landing in England or landing in Africa. Over a short distance, an error can be easily corrected, but in the long distance it can mean hundreds of miles of difference.
The idea James is emphasizing is that our words have an effect on our own course, our lives’ own directions. Words spoken in the right place and the right time can land us a great job, a promotion, or a windfall. Words spoken carelessly at the wrong time can leave us crippled for the rest of our lives. Politicians know this truth better than any of us – how many political careers have been ruined because someone said just the wrong thing?
(5) So too the tongue is a small part of the body, yet it has great pretensions. Think how small a flame sets a huge forest ablaze.
(6) And the tongue is a fire! The tongue represents the world of wrongdoing among the parts of our bodies. It pollutes the entire body and sets fire to the course of human existence and is set on fire by hell.
Again, another illustration – this one using fire. You’ve all probably heard that song, that to my generation has come to symbolize 70’s spirituality – “It only takes a spark to get a fire going.” That can be true in many ways – spiritually and physically. Few forest fires are sparked by someone who’s really trying to do it. Not many people sneak out to a forest and say, “I’d like to burn up hundreds of miles of forest, burn down people’s homes, and pollute the environment.”
No, most forest fires are carelessly started. Someone throws a cigarette out the window onto a pile of leaves. Someone doesn’t properly put out a campfire. Someone’s burning some brush on their land and the wind stirs the fire out of control.
So are our words, says James. We don’t have to be intentionally cruel to do damage with our words. Careless talk is enough. And we may never realize all the damage it has done.
(9) With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse people made in God’s image.
(10) From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. These things should not be so, my brothers and sisters.
(11) A spring does not pour out fresh water and bitter water from the same opening, does it?
(12) Can a fig tree produce olives, my brothers and sisters, or a vine produce figs? Neither can a salt water spring produce fresh water.
And here, I think, is James’ final point. The illustrations he uses at the end – a spring that puts out both fresh and salt water; a tree that produces both figs and olives – shows just why James is concerned about words. The water from a spring comes from a source deep inside the ground. The fruit of a tree is determined by what kind of seed you planted to begin with. You can’t change a fig tree into an olive plant.
And neither can we simply change our words. We tell ourselves, “Maybe I can just shape up and say what I really mean.” But words are not something we can change like clothes. Jesus himself said, “Don’t you realize that it’s not what goes into the mouth that defiles a man, but what comes out of it?” James and Jesus both realize the powerful truth: Our words are a mirror to our hearts. What we say is a reflection of who we really are inside.
Words are not just part of who we are. Someone has said that “our speech is the pen of our heart.” James is not so concerned about words just because of what they have the potential to do (though he does see that quite clearly). The reason we have to be so careful about what comes out of our mouth, is that what comes out of our mouths often says something about who we are on the inside.
What Can We Do?
So we understand that words are powerful things, that we have to be ultimately careful of how we use them. But how? It’s so easy to be careless, and so hard to be careful! So what can we do? Just always be quiet and not say anything, like Abraham Lincoln? Maybe some of us need to heed that advice.
I think one of the things James would recommend to us is constant awareness. He uses many illustrations to get his point across, almost as if he’s hoping that we’ll get at least one of his illustrations and remember it. Remembering and being aware of the power of our words is the first step to being in better control of them.
It’s important to be disciplined on the “giving end” of words – to be careful of what we say, and to say nothing when it’s appropriate. But it’s also important to be discerning and forgiving on the “receiving end” of words. After all, it’s not always the words that are said that cause the trouble – many times, it’s the way they are taken. We should be discerning and careful in our listening, realizing that slips of the tongue are easy to make and being forgiving in what we hear.
One thing I always emphasize at funerals and visitations is that so many people want to say something helpful – their hearts are full of emotion. But quite often they don’t know how to express it properly. Even though they do not intend to be mean, I’ve heard some very hard things said at funeral visitation. It’s always important to remind ourselves that there’s more to what’s being said than just the words themselves – we have to look at the intentions and feelings of the heart. If we listen carefully, with a forgiving and merciful ear, we are less likely to allow a careless word to ruin our day, and we might even be able to counter a harsh word with love and acceptance… something that usually makes people stop and think.
Finally, I found a story this week that illustrates our point very well. Even though the story is more about anger than harsh words, I think the point applies equally well to what we’re discussing.
La Fontaine, chaplain of a Prussian regiment, preached a plain sermon on the sin of a hasty temper. The next day the major, a very passionate man, told him he had used his official liberty rather too freely. La Fontaine admitted that he had thought of him, but had no intention of being personal. “Well, it is of no use,” said the major. “I have a hasty temper, I cannot help it, and I cannot control it. It is impossible.” The next Sunday La Fontaine preached upon self-deception, and the excuses which men are apt to make, “Why,” said he, “a man will declare that it is impossible for him to control his temper, when he very well knows that, were the same provocation to happen in the presence of his sovereign, he not only could, but would, control himself. And yet he dares to say that the continual presence of the King of Kings imposes upon him neither restraint nor fear!” The next day the major again accosted him. “You were right yesterday, chaplain,” he said humbly. “Hereafter, when you see me in danger of falling, remind me of the King.” Let us always remember we are in the presence of Christ. Surely we would not wish to let our passions loose in the presence of the King.
When we say things, are we aware of what we are saying? Are we paying attention to our words? Other people are. And God is. And if we remember that we are always in the presence of Jesus, the Spirit is in us, that God our loving Father is a part of every conversation – how can we not help but be careful with our words and actions?
May God give us all the discipline and wisdom to guard our words, and forgiving spirits that show grace when someone else’s words are harmful to us.